The Movie Situation

… After months of dating Mr.Confused finally thought it was time to address the fact that he has time/scheduling issues. The man is busy we get it, aren’t we all a bit too busy? Clearly he was into it and I knew he was doing his best. But what happens when ‘his best’ falls too short? I’ll tell you what, you decide to call it quits on dating but say yes to friendship. After nearly a month of no communication we decided to “hangout” again. Both hoping we’d had enough time to get over it and give this friendship deal a real shot. So? Yay for a movie night, right?’

Well, yes, but how can going to the movies with your friend leave you so “Dazed and Confused”? I’ll tell you how, things hadn’t changed. I don’t know about you but I’m not in the habit of being overly affectionate with platonic friends. This was beyond the friends zone. We fit naturally like we always had. The butterflys, the giddy feeling, the knowing gaze, the stolen glances, it was all still there. The genuine like, the physical chemistry, the ‘tell me every little thing that’s been going on with you in details because I want to be immersed in you’, it was all the same.

The only thing missing was the pressure of a four letter word, that seems to have the power to turn all of us inside out, DATE. That word does it all. So what do you call a more than friends but not a date movie date?

It can’t be this hard…it’s not that hard

1st d a t e

do u remember?

The Dinner Situation

“…I know of a great steak house…”

“I’d love to take you there. My treat.”

...I’ve been craving a steak all week. My mouth waters every time I think of it. Happy, as I’m finally seated and handed the menu... am so close to this I can literally smell it. As I open the menu and point out the best dish in the house, Mr. “My Treat” says, “Woah! You’re an expensive girl!”

Well! You can only imagine how horrified I was after such a snide remark. I was completely baffled and finding it hard to speak. What's a girl to do? I did the only logical thing I could think of; I offered to spilt the cost. (I am well aware that we are in a recession mind you). But he insisted I get whatever I want.

Well like any sane person, I glanced over the menu again hoping to find something within a more reasonable price for my friend with the tight wallet. I took my time looking it over, while trying to calm myself down so I wouldn’t open my smart mouth and put this guy in his place. (The gall this guy had!)  I finally found a cheap enough salad, looked up and asked what he was having.

He responded, “Well tell me what you’re getting first.”

It’s then I knew that this man was CHEAP!!!!! I told him I was getting a salad and wouldn't you know it he was getting the same! I was extremely disappointed to say the least, not only because I didn’t get my steak but because this guy talked a big talk but like so many others, he couldn’t deliver! 

So here’s the moral of the story, don’t offer to take a girl out if you cant afford it. This is the very reason why men with without proper funds should not date. I know that sounds very superficial, but lets try to remember that HE asked ME! Oh did I mention, he ordered an $11 glass of wine when he already downed half a bottle at his place???

So I ask, is it really that hard to give a girl a steak?

The Facebook Situation

...thought I’d be bold and take charge; go after what I wanted. After countless self administered pep talks, I felt empowered and brave enough! Thinking, 'if I always sit around waiting for the guy to make all the moves, I’ll never get anywhere'. Well the feeling of empowerment didn’t last long…

I approached him on Facebook after only one meeting. My best friend did most of the recon work considering this guy is her cousin. I said the things I would want a guy to say to me and gave him my phone number. I wanted to meet in person to see if there was a spark but he mentioned he was busy the whole month because he was moving. He said we could talk via FB until his schedule cleared up. I agreed after making it clear that so long as it was temporary.

More than a month later I suggested again that we should meet up. After a week he finally wrote back and said this month was bad as well. His classic line had turned into, “…soon, but until then we can be friends here on facebook, if you like.”

Why would he say he is interested in getting to know me only to constantly put me off? You can only converse through Facebook messages for so long! After a while you want some human contact with the person you are getting to know.
Come on, is it really that hard?

A Frustrating Situation

Heres the Situation....

We've been seeing each other for a couple months now and it doesn't seem to be going anywhere...this guy doesn't really make the "move" and I don't like how he isn't taking control in that way...its weird...I just want to say "I WANT U" but I don't want to come off as the aggressive one...is that too hard?

"...hands down, I'm too proud for love..."

drake "lil bit"

i hope they never find out...

what they already know, know, know

as soon as its official...

we'll have to let it go, go, go

so we don't confirm the fling,

keep avoiding all the questions.

u could teach me many things,

im just scared to learn a lesson.

The Random Situation

...getting ready to go out…texting back and forth…know it’s a big night because of the out-of-towners…conversation goes a little something like;

”We should meet up if you want” (hoping for a “ya, that’d be great”)

Instead

”Not really the one making plans”, he says (sure you’re not)

“OK well hope you boys have fun!” (Hope you don’t meet some chick and fall in love)

….later that night….

“Well funny to run into you here.” (Whoa, is she stalking me?)

“Same goes for you.” (Whoa, this is random! Hope he doesn’t think I’m stalking him!)

Evening goes well. We have a blast as usual. Chemistry is stronger than ever. He makes his calming comments and gives just the right compliments about the things that he knows matter to me. We dance like we’re the only ones there. Me in his arms, his hands in mine, my fingers wrapped in his. It’s what I’ve been yearning for, for months. It feels so right. This touch; his touch it’s what calms by body. He feels it too. He’s relaxed. He’s happy. He’s knows he doesn’t have to wear the mask or put on a show. He can just BE. I can’t think straight. I just want to stay like this. He kisses my neck and I flash back at what we had. I just wanna freeze this moment.

Then all too soon it ends. We’re saying goodbye. He hugs me. He won’t let go. He asks me to stay. Reluctantly, I say I have to go. But all I wanna do it stay. He pulls me back and gives me a pleading look. Asks again for me to stay. I simply place my hand on his head. A gesture to say I’m Sorry. He blows me a kiss as I turn to leave. I walk away. I don’t turn back. I can’t turn back. This isn’t how it’s supposed to be or feel. My heart isn’t supposed to be breaking.

Once I’m away reality sets in. Knowing we have such a great time together, why didn’t he invite me? We’re all friends and we all use to hang out so much but now he can’t even invite me out …it’s not that hard, is it?